I don’t really know why we put so much pressure on ourselves when we are about to meet people we don’t know, and yet need to impress. This goes from your boyfriend or girlfriend’s parents, their best friends and even some of their colleagues. No matter what your relationship with your significant other is like, whether you have been dating for a while or if you have just met, meeting someone they truly care about for the first time will *always* be a bit nerve-wracking but as usual, we’re here to help.
Luckily for me, I was actually friends with my partner before we started dating, which means I had already met his parents, as well as his best friends on a friendly basis and let me tell you, it took so much pressure off. Other than hearing his mom whisper to him how perfect we would be together after a day walking around the city, I feel really lucky to have avoided any of that pressure.
It’s important to keep in mind however that no matter what you do during that dinner or whatever it is that you end up doing with them, that you always keep true to yourself. You might recall how Phoebe from Friends acted around Mike’s parents? We all know how badly that ended, and if you’re not a fan of the show let’s just say there was some bleeding and nasty things left in the closet…
Looking back at the way this encounter has been portrayed in popular culture is actually quite baffling and makes me think that it might have even worsened our misconceptions. For example in one of the most popular comedy film portraying in laws: Meet the Fockers, literally everything that could go wrong, goes wrong. In the film Monster-in-law Jennifer Lopez’s sweet boyfriend’s mom turns out to be the actual devil and even in one some the most romantic films out there such as The Notebook, her parents seem to give gorgeous Ryan Gosling a very hard time due to his social class.
This got me thinking, what is it with movies and TV shows and its love to make you think meeting the parents will be the worst experience of your life? To make you feel better, here are some top tips from the TWC team to make sure everything runs as smoothly as possible:
“Don’t wear ripped jeans….
This might sound silly to you, but the looks I got when I arrived at the restaurant will scar me for life,”shared TWC employee Marie. Which actually reminded me of the time I went to babysit a child for the first time with ripped jeans, and they actually never called me back! Could ripped jeans really be an opportunity killer? Let’s just say it’s best to play it safe and pick one of our outfit options below.
“Do your research…
I remember how shocked my boyfriend’s best friend was when he found out I didn’t actually know the story of how they met. This made me realise how important it is to ask all the right questions in advance to make the best possible impression”. This is actually something I can relate to, and this quote actually came from my cousin who is now single and ready to mingle!
“A smile can go a long way”
This is something my mom tells me every time I am about to meet someone new, whether it is for a job opportunity, a social gathering or even just an everyday encounter. I’ve got to say that my mother is always right, and a smile can really make everything better. Try it, and let me know what you think!
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